Depression and Talking Therapy
What is depression?
Life throws curveballs, and it's normal to feel sad, tired, or unmotivated now and then. Depression is more than just a bad week. It's when that low mood hangs around and starts affecting how you feel, think, and live your life.
If you’re struggling to get out of bed, feeling numb, or like you’re not yourself anymore, it might be depression. And you're not alone. It's more common than most people think.
When does a low mood become depression?
If a low mood lasts more than a couple of weeks or keeps coming back, it might be depression. Especially if it’s getting in the way of things you’d normally do—work, relationships, or even looking after yourself.
Are there different types of depression?
Yes, and they can show up in different ways:
Mild depression: You can still manage day-to-day, but it’s a struggle.
Moderate depression: You might need extra support, as it’s affecting more of your life.
Severe depression: It can feel completely overwhelming. You might feel hopeless or even have thoughts of self-harm or suicide.
What are the symptoms of depression?
Common signs and symptoms of depression
How you might feel:
Sad, empty or hopeless
Tearful for no reason
Numb or disconnected
Exhausted, even after a full night’s sleep
How you might act:
Withdrawing from friends or family
Losing interest in hobbies or things you used to enjoy
Finding it hard to focus
Sleeping too much or too little
Eating more or less than usual
Anxiety
It’s common for depression and anxiety to go hand-in-hand. You might feel constantly on edge, find it hard to relax, or struggle with racing thoughts.
Self-harm and suicidal feelings
Sometimes, depression makes you feel like you’ve hit a wall. If you’re having thoughts of self-harm or suicide, it’s really important to talk to someone. You’re not a burden, and you don’t have to go through it alone. Support is out there.
How might depression affect my day-to-day life?
Everything can start to feel harder. You might miss work, struggle to keep on top of things at home, or feel distant from your partner or mates. It’s not laziness—it’s the depression making even simple tasks feel massive and simply not having any interest in anything.
What causes depression?
There’s no single reason. Sometimes, it’s triggered by a life event—like a bereavement, breakup, or job loss. Other times, it can feel like it comes out of nowhere. Things like childhood trauma, loneliness, or chronic stress can all play a part.
And sometimes, it's down to a mix of things: your environment, your relationships, even your brain chemistry. The important thing to know is that it’s never your fault.
Self-care tips for depression
Keep a routine, even if it’s basic. Wake up, shower, eat.
Try to get outside, even if it’s just a short walk (Sometimes this is hard, but it is important)
Eat something nourishing—your body needs fuel, protein and a colourful plate.
Avoid alcohol or too much caffeine, whilst providing temporary relief for some, it can lead to feeling worse afterwards,
Reach out. Text a friend. Call a helpline. Book a session.
Be gentle with yourself. Try ot to add pressure to your already full plate.
What treatments are there for depression?
Talking therapies
This is where I come in. Talking to a qualified therapist in a safe space can help you process what you're feeling, spot patterns, and find a way forward that works for you.
Referring yourself to therapy
You don’t need to wait for a GP to refer you. You can self-refer through the NHS (IAPT in England), or book privately if that feels more accessible.
Should I stop therapy if I start to feel better?
It’s brilliant when you start to feel a shift. But therapy isn’t just for when you’re at rock bottom it’s also about maintaining progress, learning more about yourself, and building a stronger foundation for the future.
Opening up about depression
It’s scary at first, but being honest with someone—a friend, your GP, a therapist—can be a turning point. You deserve support. You don’t have to have the "right" words. Just start where you are.
How can friends and family help with depression?
Be there. Sometimes, just sitting with someone or checking in with a text makes a big difference.
Don’t pressure. Avoid telling them to "cheer up" or "just get on with it." That’s not how depression works.
Keep doing normal things. Chat about telly, go for a walk, make a cuppa—help them feel connected.
Take care of yourself, too. Supporting someone else is hard. Your wellbeing matters.
FAQs about Depression and Therapy
What does depression feel like?
Like a fog you can’t shake. It can feel heavy, hopeless, or just... nothing. It’s different for everyone, but it’s always valid.
Can therapy help with depression?
Yes. Especially Person-Centred Therapy, which offers a non-judgemental, safe space to explore your thoughts and feelings at your own pace.
How long does therapy take to work?
There’s no set timeline. Some people feel better in a few sessions; for others, it’s a longer journey. It’s about what you need.
Is it normal to feel worse before you feel better?
Yes. Opening up can be uncomfortable at first—but it often leads to real healing.
Do I need to be diagnosed with depression to see a therapist?
Nope. If you're struggling, that’s enough reason to reach out.
FAQs about Holly Ibbs - Therapy
Who is Holly?
I'm a certified Person-Centred Therapist offering online therapy for adults across the UK and Portugal. I believe therapy should feel like a conversation, not a cold diagnosis. No judgement. Just honest, human support.
What’s Person-Centred Therapy?
It’s a gentle, client-led approach that meets you where you are. We go at your pace, focusing on what matters to you.
Can I book a session with you?
Absolutely. You can book online here or get in touch with any questions. I offer a free 15-minute chat so we can see if we're a good fit.
Do you only work with depression?
Not at all. I also support clients with anxiety, low self-esteem, grief, neurodivergence, and big life changes.
If you’re reading this and something’s resonated—reach out. Whether it’s me or someone else, talking really can help. You don’t have to go through this alone. Holly x