How to Fix a Broken Relationship or Relationship Problems
Let’s be honest—relationship problems can knock the wind out of you. Whether it’s constant arguments, growing apart, or that gut-wrenching feeling that something’s just not right anymore, it’s a tough place to be in.
If you’re struggling to fix a broken relationship or work through relationship problems, this blog is for you. We’ll talk through what might be going wrong, how you can take action, and when it might be time to walk away.
If you’re someone who’s trying to make sense of it all on your own—I offer warm, non-judgemental support through one-to-one Person-Centred Therapy, both online and in-person, for people who are ready to look inward and and move forward with whatever comes up.
Signs of a Broken Relationship – What Causes Relationship Problems
What are relationship problems?
We all argue. We all hit bumps in the road. But when the connection feels strained more often than not, you might be facing deeper issues.
Common relationship problems include:
Feeling like you’re not heard or understood
Constant miscommunication
Resentment building up
Feeling more like flatmates than partners
Emotional distance or feeling lonely in the relationship
Mismatched values, goals or love languages
These problems can be caused by stress, poor communication, unmet needs, lack of time for each other, or personal struggles one or both of you are facing. Sometimes the root of the problem goes way back into family patterns, past trauma, or low self-worth.
Ways to Fix Relationship Problems
Before anything else: if you’re the one trying to heal or untangle things, it starts with you. You don’t need a partner in therapy to begin your own journey of healing, reflection, and growth. These steps are helpful whether you're in a relationship or figuring out what you want from one.
1. Start “dating” again
Remember what it felt like when things were good? Try bringing that back. Go for a walk. Cook dinner together. Laugh. Be curious about each other again.
2. Make your relationship a priority
It’s easy for life to get in the way—jobs, kids, work, stress. But relationships need time, presence, and effort. Check in with how much quality time you're really spending together.
3. Let go of expectations
Sometimes the pressure to be perfect, to “fix” everything, or to expect your partner to read your mind creates even more distance. Allow space for imperfection. It’s OK not to have it all figured out.
4. Plan a weekly meeting
This doesn’t have to be formal—just a regular check-in. “How are we doing?” “Is there anything we need to talk about?” Honest conversations can stop things from building up.
5. Say thank you
Appreciation goes a long way. Notice the little things. Express gratitude. It helps both people feel seen and valued.
6. Try to hold hands and hug more
Physical affection can ease tension and reconnect you emotionally. A simple hug can say a lot.
7. Ditch the routine and have fun together
Try something new. Fun creates connection and reminds you both of what it feels like to enjoy each other’s company.
8. See a therapist
If things feel too tangled or painful to work through alone, therapy can help. And here’s where I come in—I works one-to-one with individuals navigating relationship stress, heartbreak, or confusion. You don’t have to be in couples therapy to work on your relationship. Your own growth and healing can make a world of difference in how you communicate and help to figure out what you actually want and need.
Can a Broken Relationship Work Again?
Yes, it can—if both people want to work at it. But it takes honesty, effort, and a willingness to change. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is look at your own patterns and explore what you need and deserve in a relationship.
Person-Centred Therapy helps you do just that. It’s not about giving advice or telling you what to do. It’s a safe, warm space where you can talk freely and be heard without judgement. That alone can be transformative.
Overcoming Insecurity in Relationships
Insecurity can sneak in quietly—overthinking, needing constant reassurance, feeling not good enough. Often it stems from past relationships, attachment styles, or low self-esteem.
Therapy can help you build self-worth, understand your emotional triggers, and develop healthier ways of relating. You are not “too much” or “too sensitive”—you’re human. And you deserve a relationship that feels safe.
When to Walk Away
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, the healthiest option is to let go. Here are some signs it may be time:
1. Sexual, verbal, or physical abuse is part of the relationship
Abuse is never acceptable. If you're in this situation, seek help and support immediately.
2. There is a refusal to take accountability
If one or both people constantly blame without reflection, it’s hard to move forward.
3. There is a lack of trust
Trust is the foundation. Without it, everything becomes shaky.
4. There is no respect for the other person
Mutual respect matters—no one should feel small or dismissed in their relationship.
5. The relationship is toxic
Constant drama, emotional manipulation, or a cycle of highs and lows can leave you exhausted.
6. You and your partner are incompatible
Sometimes love isn’t enough. Different values, life goals or communication styles can create a lasting disconnect.
7. You don’t feel comfortable
You shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells. A healthy relationship allows you to be yourself.
FAQs About Relationship Problems
What are common signs of relationship problems?
Communication breakdown, lack of intimacy, constant arguments, emotional disconnection, or feeling unappreciated are common signs.
Can one person fix a relationship?
You can’t fix everything alone, but you can work on yourself, understand your patterns, and make empowered choices.
How do I know if I should leave?
If the relationship is causing harm, you feel disrespected or unsafe, or you’ve tried everything and nothing changes—it may be time to walk away.
FAQs About Holly Ibbs – Therapy
Does Holly work with couples?
No, Holly works with individuals, not couples. But you don’t need to be in couples therapy to work on your relationship. Therapy with Holly can help you explore your feelings, patterns, and needs.
Does Holly offer online therapy?
Yes—Holly offers both online and in-person sessions, so you can choose what works best for you.
What kind of therapy does Holly offer?
Holly offers Person-Centred Therapy—a gentle, human, non-directive approach where you’ll be fully heard and supported to explore whatever’s on your mind.
Where is Holly based?
Holly is based in Lisbon, Portugal and offers online therapy to clients in the UK and Portugal.
If you're struggling with relationship problems—whether you're trying to fix things, make a decision, or just want to feel more like yourself again—therapy can be a safe place to talk. Reach out to Holly for a free 15-minute call and see if it feels like a good fit.
💛 You deserve support. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
